Staying Aquainted With Your Daughter Through Her Interests

by Shelley Noonan

Just last week my daughter Laura posted a picture of her newly pruned grape vines on Facebook to ask me if she had pruned her year-old grape vines correctly.


Laura and her family live in Dallas, Texas, nearly 600 miles away from our farm in Nebraska, so now we do our garden discussions via cell phone and the internet.  Laura always had my keen interest in vegetable gardening and growing fruit, whether that be peaches, apples, grapes, raspberries, etc …   and we are often emailing each other information on the best and the newest varieties that are on the market.



Gardening has always been one of the ways I can connect with my lovely daughter.  We literally can spend an hour on the phone planning the orchard; pondering fertilizer and soil makeup, and how to process the bounty we are getting from these productive plants.  It has and will continue to be a source of joy and wonder that will also keep our relationship close and fun.



As dads we need to understand what our daughters love to do and how to encourage doing that within a godly context.  Much like young grape vines, our daughter’s tendencies and interests are like the tender shoots of the grape vines and reveal their God-given bent. “Train up a child in the way she should go and when she is old she shall not depart from it.” A God-given bent is often a place where we  dads are able to show interest in our daughter’s life.  It shows we care enough to stop and share her life, and then as we walk that road with them, we can teach and share the deeper things in life such as our own walk with the Lord and how she can have a strong walk with God also.


Men are skilled at coming along side, usually in a work context.  You can use this gifting to come along side and love your daughter by showing interest in this beautiful creation God has made.  Today, my daughter is  not only getting her hands dirty in the Texas soil raising vegetables and fruit, but also she is busy raising  two little boys.  Just another area she and I can connect and enjoy.



Ladies,  I encourage you to share this article with your husband and discuss ways he and your daughter can pursue her interests and connect! Go ahead, comment on the ways he is already connecting with your daughter. He would appreciate the encouragement and praise and it also helps others get creative ideas for staying acquainted.





Bob Noonan has been married to Shelley for 29 years.  He farms the dark rich soils of northern Platte County Nebraska that have been in his family for four generations. He and Shelley homeschooled their three children for 13 years.  He has recently finished his Bachelors of Science in Agronomy with an option in research at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln (UNL) and should complete the Masters of Science in Agronomy with a specialty in Crop Genetic Engineering and Crop Breeding by Fall of 2012, also at UNL.  Bob and Shelley also co-authored The Three Weavers Plus Companion Guide ~ A Father Daughter Bible Study on Purity and the giveaway for this week (see Monday’s post)!

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wpadmin October 3, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Christin, Thanks so much for sharing this. It is a true example of a Daddy taking the time to study his daughter and finding out about her interests to gain access into her life and heart. Thank you so much for sharing the way your husband is pursuing your daughter’s heart.


Christin @ Joyful Mothering October 3, 2011 at 5:31 pm

My husband is wonderful with our children. Specifically right now, he is reading “Little Women” to our 9 year old {who is participating in this study with me}. 🙂

In December, some students from our youth group will be performing in the play “Little Women”, so my husband bought two tickets: for him and our daughter. It is a wonderful completion to their months of reading {the unabridged version} of Little Women. It has been a sweet time for them! 🙂


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