Queen In A Home of Her Own {Part 3}

by Shelley


Three Lessons on Homekeeping for the Would-Be Queen

The first lesson is how to clean a room and make certain it looks nice. Your daughter should know how to sweep, dust, clean windows, and make a bed. At first, make her bedroom her responsibility and then add rooms as you see her capabilities grow. After she has mastered her domain, you can add on the bathroom. Your little princess should be trained to develop working knowledge on how to clean a bathroom. Mom, you may have to write the steps out for cleaning a bathroom so that she can effectively learn the steps involved. Put them on a pretty recipe card and have it laminated.

As I mentioned before…inspection of the job is a necessity and a chore list is imperative if you would like to accomplish the objective of training her in how to clean room by room.  By introducing a new skill into her list every two weeks, she can learn the necessary tasks in a short amount of time.

Many of you mothers were never trained in the area of Homekeeping. Instead of being intimidated, why not learn with your daughter? I can not tell you how many skills I have learned WITH my daughter!

The second lesson is laundry. A girl ought to know how to do laundry and this responsibility can begin at an early age. While it may be easier and faster for Mom to just wash her daughter’s  clothing, this expertise is  necessary when she is out on her own.

First, begin by getting a laundry basket for her and place it in an area she can easily access but not in plain sight. For example, her closet might work well or a covered hamper in her bedroom. Next, set a day for her to do and complete her laundry. Notice the word complete? This is where Supervisor Mother comes in. Teach her how to sort, appropriate temperatures for specific clothing, stain treatment, and detergent usage. Clothing hung up while still damp and warm from the dryer can save her the trouble of ironing. However, ironing should be taught so she can take care of the articles of clothing that need this process. Also, this would be the perfect time to teach her how to mend a hole or sew on a button if needed.

 The third lesson a girl should become skilled at is cooking good and nutritious meals. Your daughter might make a mean brownie or amazing cookies, but she needs to be able to cook nutritious well-balanced meals as well.  We did this in our family by assigning one meal to each child per week. To my delight, later on they wanted to take more than one turn! We started this process around 9-10 years old. I would ask them to select a simple recipe and meal plan. We would make sure to include the ingredients we needed on the grocery list. In time, my daughter was responsible for alerting me to the groceries she needed and the meal preparation for her assigned meal that week.

In a while, you may want to encourage her to take on a one-week menu plan. She would be responsible for planning what to eat for each night’s meal and the shopping for the items to complete this menu and preparing the meal.  {See the organizational charts we created for a study called Beyond Beautiful Girlhood Plus Companion Guide!}  This is an excellent time for you to teach her about budgeting or create a weekly budget for the groceries and implement it while shopping. By teaching this skill now, you are training your daughter to be a good steward of time, money and resources.

Through faithful training and careful inspection and good dose of encouragement, your daughter, by the age of 12-14, will be able to do the basics skills mentioned! Next time, you and I will go over a tried and true diagnostic tool that is sure to help you discern areas that need development in your daughter and your life!



P.S. B’twixt and B’tween Classes start September 12! Do you have your books? The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood and Beautiful Girlhood?


Shelley  is a home school veteran, popular conference speaker and co-author of four books including the book this article is based off of: Beyond Beautiful Girlhood Plus Companion Guide.  Shelley’s passion is to encourage and create tools to assist parents in mentoring their children.  Her books and TeaTime products are available at www.pumpkinseedpress.net

Shelley’s Books:

The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood  (Mothers and Daughters ages 9-13)
Beyond Beautiful Girlhood Plus Companion Guide (Mother and Daughters ages 13-18)
The Three Weavers Plus Companion Guide (Father and Daughter ages 12-18)
The Christian Party Book ~ Easy Parties with Eternal Perspective! ( Creative ideas for parties including devotional specific to theme!)

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Wanda August 8, 2011 at 11:53 am

Shelley, I submitted my e-mail address to receive your blog entries…does that put me on the list to participate in the Beautiful Girlhood study beginning in September or is there a separate sign-up for that? I do not have a facebook account but would be able to participate by e-mail if that is available? So glad to have found your site (by way of Raising Homemakers)and am looking forward to deepening my relationship with my middle school-aged daughter through your blog and the study. Thank you and God Bless…


wpadmin August 8, 2011 at 12:44 pm

Yes. You will receive any information you need regarding the classes by email because you subscribed for the email updates. Glad you have joined us Wanda!


Tahirah July 29, 2011 at 5:02 pm

My daughter is only 2.5 years old. This may sound silly, but is it too early for me to join? Would I get more out of it if I wait a few years?


wpadmin July 29, 2011 at 6:07 pm

Tahirah,It would be a great thing for you to go through as you are in the process of raising your little girl! Please join us!


Sinea Pies July 29, 2011 at 3:26 pm

When I was raising our daughter, I struggled with the guilt of asking her to clean her room regularly when my childhood room should have been condemned as a health-hazard! I felt like it was a double standard. Now that she is grown and has daughters of her own, I am proud to say that both of us have clean, neat (though lived-in) homes and my granddaughters are responsibly doing their share. And everybody is a good cook!


wpadmin July 29, 2011 at 6:10 pm

Sinea Pies, I know exactly how you felt! But, correct expectations are nothing to feel bad about 🙂 Glad to hear it worked out for both of you!
Thanks for sharing …


Heather July 25, 2011 at 6:12 pm

Another great post!

Thank you for linking up with us @ Raising Mighty Arrows! Blessings xoxo


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