Make Home Life Sweeter With Tea Time

by Shelley

 There is no trouble so great or grave that cannot be much diminished

by a nice cup of tea.  ~Bernard-Paul Heroux

Tea time is one method you can use to create a moment in time for your daughter. Life seems to be so stressful and it is rather easy to simply do the next thing on the list of life. But you have a unique opportunity to create a precious memory for your daughter by setting the stage for your mentoring time.

Studies have shown that by creating a pleasant environment a greater amount of learning takes place with more ease. Mary Poppins said it well when she told the children under her care “Just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down!’ Growing up isn’t all that easy sometimes so tea time was a pleasant event that I used when my daughter was twelve to make the “medicine” of life go down easily.


Tea time was the event and reading and discussing Beautiful Girlhood was the activity.

Tea on Tuesday

Tuesday night tea time became a weekly ritual when we would make two cups of tea with enough sugar in each to keep our dentist happy and then settle ourselves in the quiet living room for our special time together. Every week it was the same, Laura lounging on the couch with her feet in my lap. Her cup of tea cradled in her hands. I would be on the other end of the couch reading our book, and rubbing her feet. After the first tea time, I was thoroughly convinced that there was not a better way to spend an hour.  During this time we were both taught by Mabel Hale about how to be a godly woman in “Beautiful Girlhood”. Conversation would flow as we discuss the various points that were made by the author. Questions were volleyed back and forth on what Mrs. Hale meant by that statement or how Laura could apply another facet of teaching.

Long Distance Mentoring

Five years after our Tuesday night tea time I found a need for another tea time. My little girl was one hundred miles away at college. In the fall of 2000 I was revising a beautiful book written in the early 1900’s by Margaret Elizabeth Sangster. It is entitled Beyond Beautiful Girlhood. This lovely book is directed to girls who are twelve and up-20 years of age and places a special focus on making sure your daughter knows how to manage her home, life, and spirit through various projects.  I think that this book could be considered an enhanced home economics course.  This was the book I wrote to make sure that Laura knew all she needed to know before she embarked intrepidly on the voyage of her life.

Because it was impossible for Laura and I to spend actual time together, we decided to have a long distance tea time. I made a gift box for the occasion containing a special mug, Laura’s favorite lemon tea, a pretty journal and pen that she could use to record her thoughts and mailed it to her. Each week we would cover one of the seven chapters over the phone, discuss what we had read and then talk about what we had written in our journal to reflect on the topics we had just covered.  I was relieved to learn that even a long distance mentoring was possible!


Tea time is a highly effective tool to use in your mentoring times with your daughters. Perhaps, I am attracted to tea time because it harkens back to a time when life was a slower pace and people had more time for each other. But I think that tea time is an occasion that creates a special moment in time when our daughters know they are safe, happy and with a mother who loves them enough to take time and teach them what it means to be a godly women the world today.



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