Chapter 8 – A Sunny Disposition

by Shelley Noonan

Hello Girlfriends!

“Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who’s the sunniest of them all?” This week, we discuss the concept of having a Sunny Disposition. A person’s disposition is

“the natural or prevailing aspect of one’s mind as shown in behavior and in relationships with others.”

It is often thought that one cannot change her disposition any more than a leopard can change its spots.  It is what it is! Good or bad.  But the Bible says this is not true. God’s Word and presence in our life changes our disposition.

In the eighth chapter of Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood, through questions, activities and discussion, you and your daughter will be examining what a Sunny Disposition looks like and the many benefits of having one!  As you mull this concept over, you may realize that this is indeed an area that needs to be worked on in your daughter’s life…and maybe even in your own!

Let’s look into the mirror of God’s Word for a moment. In Colossians 3:5-14 we have a before and after picture of what our nature (disposition) is like.

Before Jesus: Our dispositions are naturally gloomy and downright ugly! (Colossians 3:5-11).

After Jesus: Our picture changes dramatically! The makeover begins. We are instructed to take this unlovely disposition off like a worn out garment and, in exchange, we are to “put on” the new disposition that the Lord gives us! (Colossians 3:12-14 also see Ephesians 4:17-32)

This week I want you to check with the mirror of God’s Word. Where are you and your daughter at in this miraculous makeover? The world’s approach to “disposition change” is to acquire more education. More books, more advise, more information on why we are the way we are. But God’s approach to a Son reflecting Disposition is for us to turn away from our will and yield to His while putting on the new disposition “which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”

Keep Sunny!

Activities:
  • Read Chapter 8 in Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood.
  • Feel like taking a good long look into the mirror of God’s word? Read Colossians 3:5-14 and make two lists. One for the old natures traits and the other for the new nature traits listed here. Which side do you resemble? Don’t stop there. Ask God to confirm you to His likeness!

Memory Verse:

Proverbs 15:13

A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit

Ponder and Post:

  • Where are you at in the makeover process? Is your disposition reflecting the Son? Share with others where you feel you need prayer.
  • Do you have some ideas on how you can encourage a Sunny (Son reflecting) Disposition in your daughter? Share them with us!

 

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Sarah April 11, 2012 at 6:28 am

I notice that I have been smiling alot more since we read this chapter.
Thanks for the smiles,
Sarah 🙂

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Shelley April 18, 2012 at 11:34 am

You are most welcome Sarah! You make me smile with your encouragement!

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Barb S. November 3, 2011 at 8:49 am

Katie and I wonder just why it is that the everyday irritations are more likely to cast a cloud than the bigger life crises. I posted here: http://trainingourdaughters.blogspot.com/2011/11/sunny-disposition-beautiful-girlhood.html

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Shelley November 3, 2011 at 3:15 pm

Hi Barb,
You and Katie have a great question. I think the reason why everyday irritations are more likely to bother us and cloud our disposition is because well, there are soooo many of them and I don’t think we are prepared. Focusing on thankfulness…mindful thankfulness is so important in all things.

Maybe some other reader has others suggestions? Please share!
Shelley

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Barb S. November 4, 2011 at 11:32 am

Yes, there do seem to be so many of them. Like the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back.” If nothing else, God is developing patience and endurance. I remember reading something by Terri Maxwell years ago that said, in the midst of the easily frustrating task of correcting and recorrecting and re-correcting and admonishing and disciplining she would remind herself to thank God for the wonderfully awesome task of raising her children. Oh, that I could get that attitude to be second nature to me. 🙂

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Michelle DeRusha October 31, 2011 at 7:06 pm

I have to say, Shelley, you have one of the sunniest dispositions I have ever encountered, hands down! What an absolute delight to meet you at Relevant. Thank you for blessing me immensely with your keynote. You are a gifted speaker and a truly beautiful person. So grateful to have met you, and I just know we will see each other again, fellow Nebraska girl!

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Stacy October 31, 2011 at 6:32 pm

I admit to struggling with this one, but I am working on it!

Visiting all those blogs I collected cards for at Relevant tonight and leaving comments so you can find me….since I had a brain misfire and left my cards at home. Thank you again for the wonderful books at the signing (the girls at church will benefit from th

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Stacy October 31, 2011 at 6:34 pm

(darn computer posted before I was ready)

Anyway, the girls will benefit from the books and I know I benefitted from the company Saturday night. Loved getting to know you and your friends. Maggie and Stacey are a hoot!

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Shelley November 8, 2010 at 6:05 pm

Jan,
I so agree with you, self control is such an enormous part of the character training process of a sunny disposition. We must choose, ahead of time, how we will respond to situations. Thanks for your kind words and faithfulness to this study Jan.
You are a blessings,
Shelley

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Jan November 7, 2010 at 3:18 pm

Shelley,
This was another great week. We had fun going through the Colossians scripture and listing the things we are to be dead to and those we are to be alive to. We all agreed that it is so much more pleasant to be around someone who is “sunny” rather than “gloomy” and talked about how we could be a “sunny” person. Just like with taming our tongue, it’s an overflow of what’s in our heart. I really appreciate the mention of the role of self-control in maintaining a sunny disposition. Self-control is key to so many of these areas and it is important for us to be helping our children to grow in self-control.
Jan

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