Chapter 6 Making Herself Beautiful

by Shelley Noonan

Welcome back ladies,

In the previous weeks study we talked about the Strength of Obedience. I trust you enjoyed finding ways your daughter exhibited this character quality and rewarding her! This week we will be talking about the very important topic of inner beauty.

The comparison women make begin so very early. Even fairy tales set us up for the comparing pitfall with lines like “Mirror Mirror on the wall…who’s the fairest of them all?” Like it or not, a beautiful physical appearance is so important in our culture and how a girl of any age looks can determine to some degree how others accept her. And yet, how different are the world’s standards of beauty to God’s? He loves us and accepts us just as we are and designed us to His own specifications to bring Him joy and glory.

A desire to beautiful is not unwomanly…but,

mark you, true beauty is not of the face, but of the soul

As the author of Beautiful Girlhood said, “A desire to be beautiful is not unwomanly…but, mark you, true beauty is not of the face, but of the soul.” Women, by nature, admire and desire to create beauty. This week I would like you to encourage your daughter to take that desire and work on creating true beauty in her life that will be unfading. (1Peter 3:3-4)

I know this week’s topic of True Inner Beauty in Beautiful Girlhood and additional activities and discussion of  The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood will open up the conversation flood gates for you and your daughter!




1. Read Chapter 6 in Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood.

2. I thought it might be a good idea to see what God says about true beauty. Sarah is described as physically beautiful in Genesis 12:11. So beautiful, in fact, her beauty got her into trouble because foreign rulers coveted her and Abraham delivered her to them. (My husband would have sooo been in the dog house.) But you will see that her greatest peril and disappointment brought her right to where she needed to be. Fearing God.

Read Genesis 11:29-20 about Sarah’s life. Record the ways she personifies God’s idea of beauty so you can share them with your daughter. Ask yourself these questions.

  • Was Sarah beautiful?
  • What were her good qualities?
  • What were her weaknesses?
  • Did she love her husband?
  • How did God protect her during difficult times?
  •  What things have you learned from the life of Sarah?

3. Read 1 Peter 3:6 “like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”  Did Sarah trust in Abraham to take care of her or God?

Memory Verse:

1 Peter 3:3-4

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.


Ponder and Post:

Come on girls! I know it can be scary to share what you are thinking, but please think about these questions and post on our forum! We can bless each other!!

  • How do you cultivate true inner beauty in your life?
  • What are some ways you can direct your daughter’s love of beauty to develop her inner beauty?
  • Is it hard for you to apply God’s beauty treatment of “fearing” Him to your life? Why or why not? How do you do this? {Fearing means to have the proper respect and awe of God}


Recommended Resources:

Free! Make your Time Enjoyable! (Click to download) Here is one of Shelley’s handouts for fun spa time activities to do with your daughter!

This is the first time I am directing you ladies to somewhere other than our website. Rachel Lee Carter has a fabulous book out called Fashioned by Faith. Click on the picture or go to for more informaiton. Rachel will be our Guest Poster on Thursday!

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Sarah March 14, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Again this chapter was a spark, it reminded me of what I should focous on. I know that your study has helped me, and I thank you for it.
God bless,


Barb S. October 19, 2011 at 8:39 pm

This was thought-provoking for me. I think in my effort NOT to get so caught up in the current styles and the weight loss vicious cycles or in trying to live up to the perceived standards of those around me, I have gone somewhat the other direction and let myself get a bit, um, frumpy. I am being encouraged by Sara Mae over at Like a Warm Cup of Coffee ( and The Modest Mom’s 31 Days of Femininity ( Still, even with this encouragement to look less frumpy, I need to be cautious of what I am communicating to my daughter about prioritizing appearances. We talked today about how it’s not WRONG to dress nicely or wear jewelry or braid hair, but it is wrong if it becomes our focus over our inner beauty. We talked a bit about how it is important for us to be clean and neat and pleasant in appearance. We wouldn’t want people to be turned off or “repelled” as the author puts it. How we present ourselves affects how people perceive our God. All of this is quite a tight-rope walk, I think. Cultivating inner beauty is priority, but that doesn’t mean our appearance is unimportant. Here’s a link to my post , though I didn’t address the “frumpy” issue. :-/


Fanny October 18, 2011 at 10:45 am

Hey I just wanted to know what we had to read for finding out about Sarah. Above it says 11:29-20 which is not possible so I wanted to know what the real scripture was. Thank you. We have been enjoying the study!


Rachel October 18, 2011 at 12:19 pm

Fanny, I think that means Genesis 11:29- Genesis 20. That is the full story of Abraham and Sarah.


Shelley October 19, 2011 at 10:05 am

Thanks Fanny!


Shelley October 19, 2011 at 10:06 am

Yes, this would be impossible! LOL Genesis 11:29- Genesis 20 is the correct verses. Let me know what you think and I am so glad you have joined us and are enjoying the study 🙂


Daneille April 21, 2011 at 10:18 am

Even we mama’s need to recapture this vision!


Jan October 19, 2010 at 3:26 pm

Cultivating true inner beauty in my life is hard. I have a tendency to compare myself to others in looks, possessions, and talents and it is an area where I must constantly be reminded of what God says about me and what He desires for me.
I believe that directing our daughter’s love of beauty towards inner beauty is another one of those things that we teach best by example: how we chose to speak, serve, dress, and more.
Yes, it is hard to apply God’s beauty treatment of fearing him. This continues to surface in my relationship with my husband and I was very convicted yesterday morning when I read again about Sarah and how she did what Abraham asked and trusted God. God wants me to trust Him to work through my husband; He does not trust me to work through my husband!

We had a great time this morning reading through Chapter 6. We ran the bathtub full of warm water and a few drops of lavender and orange oil and soaked our feet together (I know, foot germ stuff, but I can’t think of 3 people with whom I’d rather share foot germs). Then we read and snacked while we soaked. Thanks Shelley for including the 1 Peter 3 verse about the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit. I was trying to remember the verse as we read through the chapter and there it was in the study guide! We also read an excerpt of Debi Pearl’s about the unattractive hillbilly woman; the reading served as another great example about how our appearance is so intertwined with our inner beauty.


Shelley October 24, 2010 at 1:50 pm

Jan, I love to read your thoughtful posts on how Lord is using this study in you and your daughters life. I know your vulnerability, wit and wisdom ministers to the other gals in this study. You dove right into the heart of this matter by stating that our daughters learn this best by our example. So many of the qualities we teach are this way and this makes this study soooo convicting! Stay fearing God, enjoying your daughters, and loving your husband. Thanks for sharing a snippet of your life with us…


fenderbirds October 18, 2010 at 5:39 pm

nice article, keep the posts coming


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