Chapter 5 The Strength of Obedience

by Shelley Noonan

Hello again!

Last week we began a new phase of The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood study by rolling up our spiritual sleeves and studying how to build godly character into our daughter’s lives. This week, we are continuing the process by discussing and putting in place obedience.

As you prepare for the study this week I want you to think and pray about the character trait of obedience. As you know, obedience is such an important part of your girl’s character. Before you do the study with your daughter I want to challenge you to think about the two types of obedience.

Compelled Obedience: This is where the weaker individual or younger is overcome by a stronger one and is compelled or forced to do what her superior forces. This type of obedience is what an employee gives the employer, the slave her master, and sometimes, unfortunately, the daughter gives to her mother and father. Obedience of this nature is fertile ground for rebellion and unrestrained will  when your daughter leaves your home.

True Obedience: This trait originates in the heart and becomes the full flower of self-government. Your daughter chooses to obey not because she is forced but because she knows the action to be right and understands that it is her duty to obey.

These first lessons of true obedience are taught at home. When I was training my daughter our byword was Instant Joyous Obedience. My goal was to train her to willingly submit her will to me joyously and instantly. I have to admit; this process was not done all at once…but was a process done over and over and over. This training was as much a procedure for me as it was for her.

The girl who would come to perfect womanhood must learn to be obedient.

Alright ladies, are you up for a challenge? This week I challenge you to evaluate what kind of obedience your daughter exhibits and look for ways to train her in the strength of true obedience!


P.S. The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood contains discussion questions, Bible study and activities, and a journal section.  This blog,  is simply a way for me to encourage you Mom to be obedient to the calling from the Lord to raise a godly daughter…



  • Read Chapter 5 in The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood and Beautiful Girlhood.
  • Keep in mind this week the big picture. Training your daughter in obedience will not only serve her in her life but also in eternity. 1 Samuel 15:22
  • Make a list of those you to whom you are obedient.  List the benefits of your being obedient. (You will share these later with your daughter in the study!)


Memory Verse:

Psalm 31:1-2 NLT

Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! Yes, what joy for those whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty!


Ponder and Post:

Please make sure to think about these questions and share with others the insights or struggles you might have. I can’t tell you how much it means to others who may be wrestling with these same issues!

What about you mom, has learning the lesson of obedience been a difficult battle for you? Tell us what some of your struggles are and how you have overcome them.

  • Lisa Barry posed this question: “It’s easy to follow when we want to go where the leader is taking us, but what about when He takes a turn we’re not in favor of?” Has your life ever taken a turn you weren’t in favor of? How did you respond? Was it difficult to be obedient?
  • Explain in a post the connection you have seen of joyous obedience to those in authority over your life and your response to obeying matters the Lord requires of you.


Recommended Resources:

Biblical Character Training {for you and your child}


I know, you are wondering how this  talk  I have done on Biblical Character Training relates to our chapter on Obedience…but it fits right into this less. When the Lord gives you a situation in your life, how do you respond? When He makes it clear that you are to do/not do something that you really, really wanted/didn’t want to do how do you respond? How quickly do you obey? Obedience first – reaction later.

Uncover the meaning of authentic Biblical Character Training. Home education is an efficient tool of the Lord to train not only your children’s character, but your own as well! Sharing home school experiences and lessons on every day character training from Deuteronomy and how this training can change your life.

Shelley will explore how God can use any situation to create character of true worth. Based on the seven aspects in Deuteronomy 6:4-9. Discover practical ways that you can incorporate this process in your daily lives and cultivate true Biblical character in your children….and in the process….yourself. Available in CD  $9.19 or Mp3 format $6.99.

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Jan October 12, 2010 at 4:19 pm

This morning we discussed how obedience is the foundation of building our good character. We talked a lot about the difference between compelled and true obedience. In my own life, as a mostly compliant child, I have still struggled with obedience as an adult. It is especially hard sometimes to do what my husband asks, although I know he loves me, when it’s something I’d really rather not do. I have learned that when I’m willing to submit to the Lord in that area I am blessed. My prayer is that as I’m parenting these little ones, they would find me worthy of their obedience, not just because of the title “Mother”, but because their hearts long to please me and they have learned they can trust me.


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