Chapter 4 Character Building

by Shelley Noonan


Dear Ladies,

Can you believe we are on week four already? Are you ready to roll up your spiritual sleeves and do some work? We have passed through the transition portion of the study and are now moving into the character building portion. In this chapter we will be investigating ways we can construct good and godly character into our daughter’s lives.

The most precious early treasure a girl can have is good character

The other evening my husband and I watched a movie called “Forever Strong”. It was the story of a wild, undisciplined young man who played Rugby and his metamorphosis from bad boy to man of character. It was a poignant illustration of how friends and even family can influence for good or for evil. The process of change was modeled by a godly coach, moral discipline, good friends, and a clearly defined goal of what it meant to be a member of the Highland Rugby team.

This time, right now, is the season to build character into your daughter’s life.”Truth or falsehood, honesty or deceit, love or hatred, honor or reproach, obedience or rebellion, good or bad, day by day the building is going on.” Moment by moment, decision by decision she is laying the foundation of her life by the development of godly character traits.

Unfortunately, bad character grows without effort. But good character takes much work, attention, goal setting, honest assessment, and discipline on both you and your daughter’s part. Goal setting is so important; the goal for character development is to each day become more like Christ.

This week, your  pre-assignment, before your even read Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood, is to prayerfully and earnestly consider ways to train your daughter in the ways of Christ-likeness. Yikes! You may think this seems like an enormous undertaking…but here is what James 1:5 says. “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him”




  1. Read Chapter 4 of Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood.
  2. Post these four questions on your refrigerator. As life happens this week, and different situations arise help your daughter (and maybe even you) define the situation by asking:
  • “Is it right?”
  • “Would it be for my good?”
  • “Does it meet the approval of my parents?” and most importantly,
  • ”Is it glorifying to God?”

You can pose these questions to attitudes, decisions, and situations that may arise!

Memory Verse:

Colossians 2:6-7

So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.


Ponder and Post:

  • Does anyone else feel challenged by this attention on building godly character and true Christ-likeness?? If so, share with us how God is using this study to not only mold your daughter but also to mold you into His likeness.
  • What are some character issues you are having with your daughter? Let’s work together on our forum by answering each other with suggestions for problems!

Recommended Resources:

Biblical Character Training for You and Your Child CD/MP3  Uncover the meaning of authentic Biblical Character Training. Home education is an efficient tool of the Lord to train not only your children’s character but your own as well! Sharing homeschool experiences and lessons from Deuteronomy, Shelley will explore how God can use any situation to create characters of true worth. Based on the seven aspects in Deuteronomy 6:4-9. Discover practical ways that you can incorporate this process in your daily lives and cultivate true Biblical Character in your children….and in the process….yourself!

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Sarah January 23, 2012 at 6:01 pm

This was a neat chapter.We actualy read it about a week ago but I have still been wanting to make a comment. It really made me think, “what traits do I need to build in my character.” It made me think about what I need to do to become a better Christan and show others who I really am through God.


Barb S. October 6, 2011 at 10:40 pm

I’ve been thinking a lot about this since yesterday. So much here to think about. I know these are long, but I had lots to process in regards to this chapter. Bear with me. I write just as much if not more to myself as to anyone who happens to read. 🙂


Barb S. October 5, 2011 at 10:50 pm

This was a great chapter. Lots of meat to chew on. It is easy to get overwhelmed if you think of ALL the character traits you want to build into your children. I remember coming across this character quality list quite some time ago. It’s posted on our bulletin board: (I believe this is from ATI, but it does not constitute an endorsement by me, just a list of qualities for consideration.) Easy to get bogged down and say, “where do I start?” Katie and I had some good discussions today.


Jan October 5, 2010 at 3:51 pm

Is this lesson for me or for my daughters?! Seriously, what a great reminder that character is in the little decisions we make every day (p. 31). This is especially convicting in the light of being on-task in parenting during the younger years because foundations are set at even that very sweet and tender age. “Bad character grows without effort” is an encouragement to me that now is not the time to grow weary in doing good for my children. And as my daughters are growing up, I see that it is much easier to root out bad behavior/character issues now than it is as an adult.
This morning we read through the Bible verses together, listed the character qualities and prayed about the ones with which we most need God’s help. We had a good discussion about how Christ is our pattern for character and we must know the Word to know which way we should go. We each have a copy of the Decision Making Checklist and I will be putting mine in a prominent place so we can use it often during the week.


Shelley October 5, 2010 at 4:30 pm

I know Jan! I feel convicted by the Holy Spirit everytime I write a study for you ladies and your daughters! Truth is not a respector of time or person…and I believe that is why the B&B study, based on the Word of God, is apt to teach, rebuke, corect and train us moms in righteousness as well. 1 Timothy 3:16.
Today, I am praising God for what He is doing in your life Jan! S.


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