Chapter 2 From the Child to the Woman

by Shelley Noonan

Welcome back!

I trust  you and your daughter enjoyed your very first lesson together. Did you take time to introduce yourself to the group? If  not, make sure you do so in the comment portion below or even on Facebook! Ladies, I encourage you to jump in and leave your questions and comments and to also reply to the comments and questions others leave. This is how we create and form our community.

Last week we began the study with the theme of transition. This week we will talk in more detail about the transition from beautiful girlhood to womanhood.

I can still clearly remember when I first noticed my daughter changing from girl to woman. One day, I caught a glimpse of the first trace of cheekbones being sculpted from her round and rosy little girl cheeks. Her feet grew over one short summer to a size 8 ½. And my, oh my, the clothing I just purchased didn’t quite fit her the way they should as curves began appearing in areas that were once flat. And yikes, much to my dismay, I started to sense an occasional resistance to my authority.

Dear Mother, I mentioned my experience with my daughter in order to get you into a frame of mind for this week’s study. The chapter title From Child to the Woman says it all, doesn’t it?

We see this miracle take place continually, yet we never cease to wonder at the sweetness,

charm and beauty of every young woman as she comes to maturity.

This week I want you to begin to plan how you are going to teach your daughter about this amazing transformation she can be looking forward to. Please check out question 3 of the Discussion Questions in The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood as it gives you an opportunity to open up a dialog about this area in a more purposeful way.

If you have this area under control already, then Bravo! If you are like many women and don’t know where to begin or would like to have more resources on hand, please examine the suggested resources list. And if you are really concerned…the Mp3 Welcome to Womanhood could be just the pep talk you need!

Because this conversation can be as difficult on Mom as it is for your daughter, I want to really encourage you to study up and be prepared. And don’t forget to post questions, suggestions and comments on the post for Chapter 2! Remember, this is a process we are all going through…you are not in this alone.

Blessings,

 

 

Activity:

  • Read Chapter 2  of Beautiful Girlhood aloud to your daughter and do the  questions in The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood.
  • If your daughter is approaching the age when you need to talk to her about her changing body, make a plan on how you will explain things to her. (Check out the resources listed below for help!)
  • How will you prepare her for this change?  Perhaps you will give her a book to read and discuss it. Go for a mother daughter day? Go bra shopping? Maybe even a special meal including your husband, you and her?
  • Because this chapter is about becoming a capable woman read Proverbs 31 several times with your daughter this week. Ask the Lord to give you insight into who the woman was/is and how you and your daughter can be more like her!

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Memory Verse:

Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

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Ponder and Post:

  • What are some ways you can celebrate your daughter’s amazing transition from girl to woman?
  • What does it mean to be capable? How can you begin to train your daughter to become a capable woman?
  • What has worked for you?

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Recommended Resources:


Welcome to Womanhood CD or MP3

For mothers only. Between the ages of 10-14 your daughters are going through a variety of drastic changes. She is making the delicate transition from girlhood into womanhood. It can be overwhelming for the girl…but also for the mom! Shelley will help you discover various ways to talk to your daughter about her changing body, ways to commemorate the occasion, and a timeline of age appropriate information. $9.95

Mentoring Your Daughter CD or MP3

Little girls grow up so fast….if only there was a simple method to instill your values into your daughter. There is! It’s called mentoring. The main component to mentoring is T.I.M.E. Join Shelley Noonan as she encourages and motivates you to spend your TIME mentoring your daughter by sharing her own brand of practical wisdom. Glean information on various ways to mentor and resources to make the time that you spend with your daughter unforgettable! $9.95

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Gidget October 6, 2011 at 7:42 pm

We have used the God’s Design for Sex Series. It’s a series of 4 books and the first book is designed to be read when they are between ages 3-5 and then each progressive book gets a little more in depth. They really helped keep the lines of communication open and so the conversations about changing bodies haven’t really been uncomfortable 🙂

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Barb S. September 21, 2011 at 6:35 pm

Did anyone else NOT make it on their daughter’s list of “good women?” :-/

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wpadmin September 22, 2011 at 8:10 pm

LOL….oh my. I am sure she just overlooked you Barb!

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Martha Huber September 20, 2011 at 5:15 pm

Well, my daughter isn’t into purses and things like that (she is so much more into Lego’s!) So we are trying to find other ways to do crafts. But we did have our study last night and it was great. We sat by the river and ate a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Half Baked (so good, it must be sinful to eat it) and had our bible time. We are working on Proverbs 31 all through the week. This is our second week and my daughter is really glad for the special time just the two of us (not doing school work!) We have the series “God’s Design for Sex” and have appreciated those books. However, we just moved, and I cannot find the current book that we need…so we may have to wait a few weeks. Thank you for the encouragement!

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wpadmin September 20, 2011 at 5:26 pm

Thanks for sharing your time with us Martha….Half Baked sounds delish! I love the idea of you and your daughter by the river doing Bible time and the study. Keep it up Sister!

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wpadmin September 20, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Thanks for sharing Martha. What girl wouldn’t enjoy Ben and Jerry’s Half Baked and sitting by the river? You, my dear, are a perfect example of finding what opens your daughter up. You found out what she would enjoy and used it to make the time you spend together (pardon the pun) sweet. Great job!
Hugs,
Shelley

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Barb S. September 19, 2011 at 8:23 pm

We used “God’s Will for My Body” with our son, from Rod and Staff Books, and will likely use it with our daughter also. (http://www.rodandstaffbooks.com/item/4-241023/) We really liked this resource. Not everyone agrees about the amount of information that should be given to young people. We loved their discrete, sensitive approach that did not divulge more than we felt was necessary.

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wpadmin September 20, 2011 at 5:29 pm

Hey Barb,
Thank you so much for the information. Rod and Staff books are great. I used the one for boys with my boys.

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Christin @ Joyful Mothering September 19, 2011 at 3:41 pm

Upon pre-reading the chapter before I share it with my daughter tomorrow, I can’t help but sigh with relief that my daughter still takes interest in playing with her dolls for whole days at a time! 🙂

I am glad we are digging into this now, though, because I would love to prepare her BEFORE the transition. And perhaps we will go through the study again and again and she will see it in a new, mature light each time, as she grows.

It has only been a week and I already see positive changes in OUR relationship. I’m happy, but also sad, because it shows ME that I wasn’t giving her the time she needed from me. BUT, I am glad that she is so easily forgiving and ready to embrace me and all my failures *cry*. I pray that I always offer her the same grace.

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wpadmin September 20, 2011 at 5:28 pm

Oh Christin, thank you for giving us a “praise report” about your relationships with your daughter! Time works wonders, doesn’t it? May your relationship always be the place that grace abounds.

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Rebecca September 19, 2011 at 5:55 am

Last night, my sweet little one asked if today would be our ‘tea’ day. She smiled her little smile when she said that was her favorite time last week! I think this week, I will get the sewing machine out….and patiently (send prayers for that….it’s an area of angst for me) help her to just sew some lines. She wants to make clothes for her doll. I am not experienced in that…only curtains, but perhaps we can learn together!

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wpadmin September 20, 2011 at 5:29 pm

LOL, isn’t this just so amazing? What we don’t know we get to learn and sometimes relearn with our daughters. I hope your time is extremely enjoyable!

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