Chapter 16 ~The Accomplished Girl

by Shelley Noonan

Hi there,

Did you know we are officially half way through our study of Beautiful Girlhood and The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood? Whoopee!

Now down to business. I think I hinted at it in a previous post but really, I feel kind of awkward talking to you about how to train your daughter to be “accomplished” at home! Not because I didn’t train my daughter in the art of homemaking …because I did.  But rather because I was not well trained in the area of Domestic Arts. My mother worked outside the home so my family had a lady that came in everyday during the week to clean our home and cook for us. My Daddy owned a grocery store and my idea of grocery shopping was to go through the aisles of my Dad’s store and just throw in whatever looked good to me into my grocery cart! I didn’t think a bit about price or value. So, now you know why, at age 20, I was woefully unprepared to become a wife to a *gasp*farmer.

My man’s idea of a good family bonding time was butchering chickens with his cousins! After we were married, my sweet farmer boy, Bob, patiently taught me how to grocery shop, cook, pay bills and manage the checkbook. The first year of our marriage, Bob actually went through each cookbook I received as a wedding gift and marked the recipes he thought I could cook. Each Tuesday, when the grocery store ads came out, he diligently showed me how to choose the specials we would buy and how to create a menu for the week to come. He also made certain I knew how to manage the checkbook…over and over and over again.(This is one skill I have to admit I have not mastered!)

My hubby is responsible for making me the Domestic Diva I am today! Alright, that might be an overstatement. Although I am so grateful to him for his patience, it would have been so much easier if I had been trained at home as a girl. Because of my early ineptitude I know firsthand the importance of training daughters to manage their homes!  This 16th chapter in The Companion Guide to Beautiful Girlhood and Beautiful Girlhood will help you to identify where your daughter needs to grow and encourage you  to plan projects with your daughter that will turn her into an accomplished girl.

This is going to be a fun one for both of you!

 

 

 

Activities:

Because I don’t want you to be unprepared… let this be a heads up for the activity you and your daughter will be doing this chapter!

  • Read Proverbs 31:10-31 and mark down on a sheet of paper all the useful skills this woman possesses.
  • Make a list of all the useful skills you have mastered.
  • Make a list of all the useful skills you have not mastered.
  • Take a look at the list of skills you have not mastered and choose one you would like to focus on and hone your skills until you become accomplished in this area. (Like getting up early for quiet time and planning your day, implementation of monthly budget, starting a home business, or even entertaining!)

 

 

Memory Verse:   Proverbs 31: 30-31

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.  Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.

Post and Ponder:

  • Even the most skilled home maker has areas she would like to become more proficient. Can you share with us what are some areas that you would like to work on this coming year to become an Accomplished Woman? Or maybe you would prefer the title Domestic Diva?
  • The Earl of Chesterfield said, “Knowledge may give you weight, but accomplishments give luster, and many people see more than weigh.” How does this statement apply to homemaking?

Resources:

Beyond Beautiful Girlhood CD

Is your daughter prepared for life? Mothers, you know that your daughter’s transition from beautiful girlhood to beyond beautiful girlhood can be the most frightening and exciting of times. Discover how to prepare your daughter in three key areas of her life. Shelley will give you encouraging examples and practical application to equip you to prepare your daughter for the day when she will manage her home, her life, and her spirit!  Price: $9.95

 


 

 

 

 

 

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Barb S. January 16, 2012 at 3:20 pm

After our miserable vegetable garden failure last year, we are hoping to do better this year. Katie and I are currently tackling sewing, and I don’t know that I’ll ever be a “diva,” but I would like to be able to throw together a modest skirt for her or myself. We also have been trying to tackle emergency preparedness and having a food supply handy. We are learning (the hard way) entrepreneurship skills as we have formed a “creative cooperative” with two other friends and their daughters and are selling at craft fairs/bazaars. Whew! That’s a lot. Would love if you joined us on the journey at trainingourdaughters.blogspot.com.

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Shelley January 16, 2012 at 7:18 pm

Thank you so much for the update Barb! Give Katie a hug from me and keep us posted on about your journey. Sewing a modest skirt sounds like a perfect first lesson in sewing….

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Amanda January 16, 2012 at 8:44 am

I really needed to read this one. I needed to hear that every housewife didn’t start out automatically knowing how to budget, cook, and be a housewife. I, too, came from a family with a working mother, actually, my parents divorced when I was only but the age of 3, so my mom (God love her) had to work 60+ hours a week so that she could put food on the table and keep the house from going to the bank, which is precisely where she worked. I love my mother with all my heart, but no skills were passed down to me regarding homemaking. We sometimes jab that we were raised by wolves. 😉 She did show me one thing that overwhelms me to this very day: her work ethic. My mom can work and work and work. I am exhausted just thinking about it. lol! Thank you for sharing that even though one doesn’t come from a strong domestic goddess, doesn’t mean I don’t have a chance to become one. I love sharing my domestic skills with my daughter. Her little face lights up when we get to be “just us girls”.

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Shelley January 16, 2012 at 9:24 am

Hi Amanda, Our past is, as they say, what it is. So our challenge is to start right where we are on this journey ans learn as we go with our daughters. If you have something you would like to learn, teach yourself and your daaughter this skill. I found this to be a motivator for me! I desired to learn how to sew, and my girl and I took quilting classas with my mom. Or, I longed to learn how to make dinner and sweet rolls…my daughter brings her dinner rolls to Christmas because a lady in our neighborhood and her other grandma taught us! Does this solund like something you could do with your sweet daughter?

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Rebecca January 16, 2012 at 5:39 am

Shelley, I fell off of the reading schedule….and….am joining back today!!! Can’t wait to spend this special time with my girl again!

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Shelley January 16, 2012 at 9:26 am

Join us Rebecca! LOL! Just start again.<3

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